agree 1000% with request. Prefer #2, but #3 is fine also. The worst IS #1
I would suggest though, if #2, a pillow or something is placed under the catcher's head so she doesn't have to reach (and likely miss). This would also allow her to easily suck/lick clit, pussy and the usually neglected taint, while the action is happening, She can lick/suck the pistoning shaft also.
Each girl has her own technique, but there should be nothing tentative about it. She should have all the vigor of a heavy make out french kissing session on Prom night!

Open mouth french kissing/sucking a gaping spewing hole sounds lovely.
jus sayin