Private sexual life

[analwithyourgirl]

How do you rate your sexual life after watching all of this porn? Can you separate porn world and real life sex? How does porn affect your looking at your partners? For me porn has rather negative impact, as I want to go more and more hardcore in bed which not always suit my partners.

[analwithyourgirl]

On the other hand porn made me better fucker. Like i learned how to bring joy and be creative with positions.

[Jocke]

Yes, porn can help you explore new dimensions of sex and make you better. I just avoid "manhandling" and "rough". I want sex to be raw, naughty and even a bit nasty but not violent. There is nothing sexy with a torture chambre.

[bustylady]

You get what you give...
Do not talk, give what you want to get back from them...
If you can't hold him up, take a 3 months break, that will help...
Include tickling and kissing in your foreplay, most girls like that...
You love and please her, she will do anything for you...
If you like Piss play, Piss on her pussy accidentally... (That's how I did, worked)
If you like anal, slip your cock in her ass accidentally...

[bustylady]

And girls like strong, quite and rough guys,
Should be strong (mentally) enough to dominate them(almost all girls are submissive, but they don't know that), and should be physically fit...

[analwithyourgirl]

Yes, porn can help you explore new dimensions of sex and make you better. I just avoid "manhandling" and "rough". I want sex to be raw, naughty and even a bit nasty but not violent. There is nothing sexy with a torture chambre.

Exactly.

[Pineapples Studio]

I think what women want more than anything is dominance, which includes the bedroom, but more importantly encompasses all of life. The problem is that the word “dominance” is misunderstood by almost every guy I’ve ever met. “Dominance” doesn’t mean you rough your girl up in bed for no reason, make her uncomfortable, micromanage her life or try to control her every move. No. “Dominance” is simply the confidence to know what you want and ask for it knowing that you’ll get it. It means you know who you are and what you like, you are clear with your girl about your expectations of her, and if you don’t get what you want for a long enough period of time, then you make sure she understands that you don’t need her and will find somebody else. It’s not about using force at all. It’s about having the confidence to define your standards and actually live by them. Women like that because it demonstrates that you have the self-respect not to take shit from anyone or settle for less than what you want. No woman likes a push-over.

Different guys express their dominance in different ways, but you don’t have to manhandle your girl in the bedroom if that’s not your thing... unless she asks you to do it... then you probably have to do it or find some other way to assert your dominance quickly, because in that case, you’ve got a kinky freak on your hands and she’s gonna need that physicality from you.

I would not advocate slipping your cock into your girl’s ass “accidentally”, for a number of reasons, but this is the most important reason to you specifically: Deception is a submissive behavioral trait. It is used as a measure of control by people who lack the power or confidence to simply ask for what they want. Dominant men do not rely upon deception to get what they want. They are clear about their desires and they make sure their women know what is expected of them. You want anal? Great! Be a man about it. Don’t try to “whoopsie” your way into fucking her ass; just tell her that you want to do it. Talk about it all the time. Emphasize her ass during sex and start trying finger play with her butthole to see how she likes it. Repeat to her that you want her ass over and over again until she comes around to the idea. Don’t take no for an answer. Certainly don’t force her to do anything, because it has to be her choice, but make it clear that you will be disappointed if she doesn’t want to try it. Have the confidence to define your standards and actually live by them. Your enthusiasm and excitement alone should be enough to convince her, if you are truly as dominant as you think you are, and if it’s not enough then maybe it’s time for you to find another girl.

You don’t show dominance by bending people to your will through force. You do it by presenting them with situations where they will choose to exercise your will through their own free choice because they want to make you happy.

[analwithyourgirl]

You get what you give...
Do not talk, give what you want to get back from them...
If you can't hold him up, take a 3 months break, that will help...
Include tickling and kissing in your foreplay, most girls like that...
You love and please her, she will do anything for you...
If you like Piss play, Piss on her pussy accidentally... (That's how I did, worked)
If you like anal, slip your cock in her ass accidentally...

You didn,t get it. All wrong. Can't hold up what? I'm still hard after two 25-30 minute rounds and foreplay is always full of love as it's great relationship. And it doesn't work like that, she won't make herself a slut just for me as she isn't nasty. Just a casual vanilla girl that I have to introduce to everything ,,nAuGhTy". And this is a problem. Even when I make her cum many many times in a row and I cum like 2 or 3 times I don;t consider the sex ,,bomb" because it's not like in porn. Porn ruined my ability to have fun from normal people sex with normally behaving girls, now I have to fuck like an animal with a nasty degraded slut.

[analwithyourgirl]

And girls like strong, quite and rough guys,
Should be strong (mentally) enough to dominate them(almost all girls are submissive, but they don't know that), and should be physically fit...

Nah, girls like strong guys with big dicks and I have no problem with it as I fill most pussies full (I'm 8.1 inch long and 6.3 inch in girth). You got it wrong one more time, it's about me not them.

[Pineapples Studio]

I would at least consider the possibility that the lessons you have taken away from porn are the result of your own incorrect understanding of what porn is.

Porn is fantasy. You are regarding it as reality and letting it color your expectations of real-world sex, but that’s unrealistic. Even porn stars admit this. Listen especially to what Rocco Siffredi has to say on the subject. You are taking sex education lessons from an impossible standard. Think less about the image of porn and more about the feeling of sex. Let feelings be your guide for what is sexy, what women will enjoy, and how you can cum without manifesting the image of porn ritualistically every time you have sex.

[analwithyourgirl]

I would at least consider the possibility that the lessons you have taken away from porn are the result of your own incorrect understanding of what porn is.

Porn is fantasy. You are regarding it as reality and letting it color your expectations of real-world sex, but that’s unrealistic. Even porn stars admit this. Listen especially to what Rocco Siffredi has to say on the subject. You are taking sex education lessons from an impossible standard. Think less about the image of porn and more about the feeling of sex. Let feelings be your guide for what is sexy, what women will enjoy, and how you can cum without manifesting the image of porn ritualistically every time you have sex.

That's right. And there comes my question, how can I set a border between porn and sex? The more porn I watch the more I look at girls in category of fucktoys and nothing more.

[Pineapples Studio]

I’m acting against my own self-interest by telling you this.

Take some time away from porn. You’ve gotten too deep if you’re allowing porn to shape your own sexual expectations in a negative way. Forget about the image of porn and re-discover the feeling of sex. Eventually, if you are successful, you will be able to watch porn again with a more correct understanding of what it is and why it excites you. You will come to see porn and sex as separate things.

Porn is quick sexual gratification achieved through intense imagery, but it is a fantasy, whereas sex is a more delayed form of sexual gratification that requires more work on your part achieved through a physical connection between you and another person, and it’s real.

[bustylady]

If it's a problem don't watch it.. problem solved...

[bustylady]

Your big dick won't get girl's heart... Your personality is all that matters, without a good personality you won't keep them... And size doesn't matter, how you use it matters...

[Pineapples Studio]

No, size definitely matters. You can be too small. You can be too big, for that matter. The vagina has a certain maximum depth. If you’re packing anything bigger than that, you’re just tearing up her cervix. Why do you think so many guys with massive dicks end up getting into anal?

You can compensate to a degree if you know how to use what you’ve got, but it’s stupid to pretend that size doesn’t matter. It definitely matters. It’s just not the only thing that matters.

[bustylady]

5-7 inches is enough to please an average girl... If it's a nymphomaniac slut use your hands, leg, knee, head, fire extinguisher or whatever she want, you have all those parts, use them wisely...

[House MD]

I tend to disagree with all that have been said for a simple reason: we do not share the same definition of porn
To me porn is close to action art a bit like movies: a drama may be fiction - a pure product of Phantasmagoria but still that doesn't stop some actors to live it as if it was their real life
Hence, I don't care about whether porn simulates the desire of having sex in a taxi or fucking the delivery guy or the secretary
All that matters to me is the performance of the actors and the intensity they are willing to invest even if it consumes them physically
That's what distinguish legendary pornstars from phoney ones
Thus I would worship any actress willing to let the pleasure derived from the instance of engaging in raw brutal sex overwhelm physical pain
I would always find a consenting woman who would share the idea of engaging in rough sexual acts that would be considered unbearable even by extreme porn standards... and by rough I mean two-ways for I also like when she's rough on me like grinding my dick with her teeth or very heavy cowgirl dick riding with her back perfectly vertical
but that's just me and I'm aware only 1% of porn consumers agree with this perspective

[analwithyourgirl]

Your big dick won't get girl's heart... Your personality is all that matters, without a good personality you won't keep them... And size doesn't matter, how you use it matters...

I already have the heart. What I want to have is a nymphomanic slut

[bustylady]

You can't have it both ways...
You can have a nymphomaniac (you can't handle her, she's going to look for more cocks) or you can have an ordinary average girl (she will love you, will never leave or cheat on you)...
Sex is nothing without love... You should know that

[TomHardick]

How do you rate your sexual life after watching all of this porn? Can you separate porn world and real life sex? How does porn affect your looking at your partners? For me porn has rather negative impact, as I want to go more and more hardcore in bed which not always suit my partners.

Porn has nothing but a possitive impact on me. I started watching porn at very young age. My main fetishes (if we can call them like that), were anal, feet and cum in mouth. My sex life was ok, just vaginal and regular sex, until i met my first girlfriend, she was virgin, but she was so into pornographic sex, man... even when we are not longer together, i will forever love her, lol. What i'm trying to say, is that everything depends on your partner; you can have amazing sex or not, it depends on the girl, the chemistry between you both. On the other hand, i just watch porn when i'm single, everytime that i'm in a relationship, i stopped watching porn, i don't know why, but it doesn't work for me; in fact, i never knew about legalporno, just after my last breakup i started watching porn again, a couple of years ago. I love porn, porn is great, and i'm always trying new stuff when i'm fucking, but when i'm with someone, i walk away from the porn path. So honestly, i don't know what i'm gonna do the next time that i have a girlfriend, because i love legalporno, hahahaha. Cheers!

[CanadianCouple]

You don’t show dominance by bending people to your will through force. You do it by presenting them with situations where they will choose to exercise your will through their own free choice because they want to make you happy.

This is really well said Mr Ananas. I think a lot of men out there seem to not understand this and end up being assholes to their partners because they think its that bending through force type of idea. A confident man doesn't need to do anything like that to have an amazing relationship.

I also found in my own journey in life, that the more confident I grew with women and the less I tried to "tell them what to do" or interfere in life, the more they blossomed and the more sexually open and extreme they would be come. I have countless stories of girls who would refuse even anal with guys but would be so eager to try some crazy piss drinking anal extravaganza because they were with a man who drew that out of them.

[bustylady]

If you have to ask, then you are a failure... Look around you, see what's happening in nature, female always choose dominant alpha males, your personality and fitness, thats what they see... and they will do anything for that person, every women are looking for such partners...
I pissed on her her pussy as it is was a normal thing to do, that was our first time, that's how I got that fetish, she didn't say anything, she just watched and enjoyed what I was doing( that's what I meant by accidentally, it was kind of an accident in our case). If you like something, just do it, never plan or ask, otherwise its not going it end well... Anal won't work that way sadly(it can be painful), still you can try...

[SuperImp]

It pretty much comes down to communication and chemistry with your partners(s). Sex is natural and should always be a fun experience. Sex may only be impactful to some through a personal/mental connection. It's also OK to enjoy sex through straight up lust for whatever turns you on. Unfortunately, the excitement may wan over the years with your partner(s) too as it becomes routine and runs low inevitably (aka Dead Bedrooms, but that's a different topic). Porn also isn't necessarily the origination for most of the moves/positions/kinks/fetishes you see either. This stuff goes back hundreds of years ago (Kama Sutra). Although, I'm not sure if DAP/TAP/etc. was done back then, but wouldn't really be surprised if there are some documented instances of it. I wouldn't doubt if Julius Caesar might have been at orgies to where they did TAP lol

House MD - I agree with ya. I also get slightly annoyed to when people say porn is strictly fake. If anything, it's both fake and real. The setup (consent/preparations/warmup/planning) behind the scenes/makeup/script/angles/etc. is all done to give the viewer a final product that is ultimately staged. The fucking is still real in the sense that an erect (most of the time) is still going into the orifices of an attractive woman that is naked.

So when I view porn, I'm mostly looking at a scene primarily due to it involving an attractive woman who is not only getting naked - but fucking as well. As far as the scene setup and premise goes, it's up to the viewer on whether the "Fantasy" is something they can temporarily believe. The fucking is still real (although not entirely truthful either). The orgasms, body language, vocal expressions, and chemistry during a scene is going to be hit or miss. You'll have people faking it (some really well), while some may be legit.

It still boggles my mind porn isn't as transparent as it can be after all these years. You'll see the measurements for women detailed straight down to numerical precision (vagina type, breast size, height, weight, etc.). For men, you rarely see the true measurements of height, weight, or the girth/length of their penis. You can only rely on estimated (non-measured) personal accounts during an interview or from trying to gauge the length of a model's hands/fingers/thumbs and trying to calculate it from there lol. Even staged scenes to where they are measuring a penis is inaccurate as the focus is just to show "Wow, a huge cock!" - Even if it might truly only be 7.5 inches long instead of 12 inches. I believe it does in a way contribute to unhealthy anxiety that some men may have about penis size and correlating it with pleasure. Topics and discussion that involve how to be a better sexual partner, stamina, intensity, etc. usually are an afterthought.

The other issue is the enhancements for stamina and erections, including drugs/medication (desensitizers for anal, etc.). Porn would benefit from not hiding these details straight up. Some people might be a tad shocked temporarily, but they'll go back to enjoying Porn as usual. I'm not saying all participants use them either, but when the majority of guys don't have a refractory/cooldown period - you know something is up. Especially if you see the guy chilling on the couch for more than a few minutes with no stimulation or after he busted his nut and is still walking around with a full erection just chilling. It's worth a shot to view the "BTS/Behind the Scenes' scenes if you can, you will see glimpses of how porn truly is. A lot more goes into the angles and setup than you realize. They ultimately are still fucking for real, but building up to it takes a lot of effort.

I went off on a tangent, but to answer the OPs question - I don't personally use Porn as a benchmark with my sex life, doing so would set up some impossible to meet standards and expectations (including disappointments). By unrealistic standards - I mean that while there are women who will take a facial, your chances of finding a partner who likes that won't be 100%. An example would be that the women I have met in my life just don't want the extra cleanup that is required (especially if it gets in their hair lol) or hate facials due to prior experiences of it hitting their eyes and as a result, irritating it. At the same time, my friend's GF has no problems with facials. Your mileage will vary. Same goes for any kink/fetish you may have. It ultimately comes down to whether you both have the same libido and are willing to experiment. The best sex will happen when you both talk about it and get to practice/experiment with it. One of the best feelings in the world is finding out what you and your partner like. At the same time, you both will find out what you both don't like either too which could be a buzz killer. It's possible to have the sex (position wise and some scenarios) you see in Porn with your partner(s), but remember - it ultimately comes down to respecting boundaries, sexual chemistry, and being open minded. I agree with you, I'd love to try out most of the stuff in my imagination or those seen in Porn - but unfortunately it takes at least two to tango (your partner). It just comes down to whether they are up for it or not. It goes both ways too btw. I find it hot when my partner will tell me what gets her horny or what she wants to try. At the same time, there will be some things I don't want to try. There will be some things that does nothing for me, but I'll do it for her pleasure.

If you are in a committed relationship, the best you can hope for is communication/respect and open-mindedness. While sex may be important, it isn't solely the foundation of a long-term relationship (especially as you get older, priorities start to change). If it is, you'll need to see what you truly want and whether you are happy. If there are limitations on what you and your partner are doing in bed and it's a deal breaker, it's time to evaluate your relationship.

For those not in a committed relationship, it's a tad easier with all of these hookup apps out there. It's a lot easier (somewhat) to find people down to fuck. You can also discuss your fantasies, interests, and limits. Worst case, if the hookup sucked or wasn't what you imagined - move on to the next one. In my opinion, sex is typically better with someone you can make some connection with over time. One night stands require both of you to be truly in sync for it to be really good sex.

Hell, you could even go to a legit escort service and schedule some time with one of your favorite models (more of them escort than most realize). There are communities out there dedicated to this, including personal reviews.

[Pineapples Studio]

Bustylady, you’re an idiot.

It’s true, you don’t have to ask for anything in life. You ask out of respect for the free choice of the other person. In fact, if you can’t get what you want by asking, you are the real failure, because it means you’ve either picked a bad partner or failed to make her want to please you.

Asking is not the same as groveling. “Would you please let me do this next time we have sex?” No, you don’t want to do that. I didn’t say that. You “ask” by presenting your partner with a choice. You can think of it more like an instruction to submit, but you can’t make the choice for her. That is called rape, my friend.

[SuperImp]

Bustylady, you’re an idiot.

It’s true, you don’t have to ask for anything in life. You ask out of respect for the free choice of the other person. In fact, if you can’t get what you want by asking, you are the real failure, because it means you’ve either picked a bad partner or failed to make her want to please you.

Asking is not the same as groveling. “Would you please let me do this next time we have sex?” No, you don’t want to do that. I didn’t say that. You “ask” by presenting your partner with a choice. You can think of it more like an instruction to submit, but you can’t make the choice for her. That is called rape, my friend.

Agreed. Actions like that can also ruin any trust built up as well. Pretty much just treat people like you want to be treated. I doubt there are many of us that will take a fist from our partner into our ass without at least a heads up lol

Man, just realized you changed your name from Pineapples! Hope you have been well

[fighthardin321]

Turn your "Private" sex life into...

A "Porn" Sex life

Way more fun that way

[fuckcunts]

I mean, porn has definitely affected a lot of people's view of sex, regardless of the fact that most people will say it hasn't. I really doubt that without porn's popularity, I would have done so many kinky things in real life.

There are things I watch in porn that I don't love in real life. I would not do a DAP, but I like to watch. I like deepthroat and facefucking a lot, and I don't mind some puke, but I'm not interested in excessive puking all over the place. But I'll watch puke porn. Pissing in a girl's ass seems like it would involve a fair amount of trouble and difficulty in real life.

As for the comments above about "violence," I call bullshit. Not everyone is into BDSM or slapping or manhandling, but a lot of people are. And research shows that women who watch porn tend to prefer rough porn that involves some degradation. This stuff doesn't come out of nowhere. That said, I have never met a woman who wants any random guy to do this stuff to her. There is a strong psychological aspect. And yes, women like men who are assertive within reason and respect themselves. Sometimes this is said to be about confidence but I don't think it's confidence as much as self-respect and assuredness.

[bustylady]

Can I kiss you? Can I fuck you in your pussy? Do you like pussy fucking? Can I put it in your mouth? Can I lick you? Will you swallow? Can I touch your pussy? Do you like tit fucking...? Girls hate big mouths like you idiot... You get what you give, don't beg... Give and take, It should come naturally, girls like aggressive bad boys, not someone who respect her, or pathetically begg to her... you have to make her beg for your cock, that's the success...

[CanadianCouple]

Bustylady, you’re an idiot.

It’s true, you don’t have to ask for anything in life. You ask out of respect for the free choice of the other person. In fact, if you can’t get what you want by asking, you are the real failure, because it means you’ve either picked a bad partner or failed to make her want to please you.

Asking is not the same as groveling. “Would you please let me do this next time we have sex?” No, you don’t want to do that. I didn’t say that. You “ask” by presenting your partner with a choice. You can think of it more like an instruction to submit, but you can’t make the choice for her. That is called rape, my friend.

busty "lady" is a known troll. Don't fall for it friend.

[bustylady]

You are just pests to someone, they are handling you well, and it's just a beginning...

[bustylady]

They are going to cleanse this corrupted system, they are going to take everything from you, for a better future... What are you going to do... Nothing... :-)

[bustylady]

That someone despise you...


Chaos is coming... Soon coming chaos... :-)

[analwithyourgirl]

Bustylady, you’re an idiot.

It’s true, you don’t have to ask for anything in life. You ask out of respect for the free choice of the other person. In fact, if you can’t get what you want by asking, you are the real failure, because it means you’ve either picked a bad partner or failed to make her want to please you.

Asking is not the same as groveling. “Would you please let me do this next time we have sex?” No, you don’t want to do that. I didn’t say that. You “ask” by presenting your partner with a choice. You can think of it more like an instruction to submit, but you can’t make the choice for her. That is called rape, my friend.

busty "lady" is a known troll. Don't fall for it friend.

He must be a troll for sure. Can't believe he is serious, looks like absolute provocation of 2inch dick manlet from his mother's basement.

[JASON15938]

porn made me forget about the pussy. Now it's anal my passion but unfortunately porn is not reality; not all women accept anal sex. If I lived in the USA or Europe I would have flirted with a Tgirl and have her as a partner. I believe that I am heteroflexible

[analwithyourgirl]

porn made me forget about the pussy. Now it's anal my passion but unfortunately porn is not reality; not all women accept anal sex. If I lived in the USA or Europe I would have flirted with a Tgirl and have her as a partner. I believe that I am heteroflexible

Same here man, porn made me anal freak. First thought when I meet new girls for fucking is what can I do with their gapeholes. On the other hand I still love the feel of pussy but more like in a fingering toy.

[101mike101]

How do you rate your sexual life after watching all of this porn? Can you separate porn world and real life sex? How does porn affect your looking at your partners? For me porn has rather negative impact, as I want to go more and more hardcore in bed which not always suit my partners.

I'd say that watching porn has expanded my sexual horizons in a positive kind of way.

I used to like only big-tit women in the past. But after watching lots of porn, I've started to like all kinds of women with many different looks. I still like big-tit women and all the other women too. So, porn vastly increased the number of women I like. Which is a positive contribution.

And it's the same with the kind of sex-acts I like. To start with, I liked big-tit sucking, tit-play, and pussy-sex. I still like these sex acts. But watching porn has also made me an anal porn-fan. So, now I also like anal and DP.

Porn added to what I like, rather than subtracted anything from it.

But it's true that my expanded sexual horizons can potentially create relationship problems with someone I like. Because in an exclusive sexual relationship, liking almost any woman who walks by isn't necessarily a good thing. I need to be consciously loyal to my partner and watch my non-verbal behavior to avoid upsetting and offending her.

And watching porn regularly keeps up my sexual desire. Which can be a problem with a partner, who wants to have sex only once a month or even only once a week. I need to be careful about committing myself to a partner, and make sure that she wants just as much sex as I want. Or else we might end up with unequal desire and all the problems associated with that.

[Pineapples Studio]

They are going to cleanse this corrupted system, they are going to take everything from you, for a better future... What are you going to do... Nothing... :-)

LMAO. Is this serious? Are you talking about the World Economic Forum conspiracy theory? The Great Reset? “You WILL eat the bugs!”

That really tells me everything I need to know about you. By the way, I never said you should beg. I said you should respect your partner. There’s a big difference.

[jackswallows]

They are going to cleanse this corrupted system, they are going to take everything from you, for a better future... What are you going to do... Nothing... :-)

Psycho on the loose...

[bustylady]

Nice Song... Thanks for the suggestion StefinSwallows...

[scarletxxx666]

Yes, porn can help you explore new dimensions of sex and make you better. I just avoid "manhandling" and "rough". I want sex to be raw, naughty and even a bit nasty but not violent. There is nothing sexy with a torture chambre.

i think sex & violence together is so cool