dap-addict wrote:There's an alarming IGy live of Vivien Lola:
Looks she's been a victim of violence, maybe even by her bf or hubby, my knowledge of Portuguese is too small.
Lets support her in all ways we can!
dap-addict wrote:Looks she's been a victim of violence, maybe even by her bf or hubby
if you don't know what has happened (and by your own admission you accept your portuguese is not good) then don't just throw names into the ring as to who may be responsible, because you may actually be adding insult to injury and even offending people close to Vivian
if you were connected to a model in some way and she came to harm, would you like it if someone came onto the forum and said 'maybe DAPaddict beat her up?' when you had nothing to do with it?
reckless speculation like that can stick to a person's reputation, so unless you are absolutely sure, it's best to keep quiet and reserve judgement until the facts are known
i'm not having a go at you. the prospect of a woman we all respect and admire being mistreated and abused (if that is what has happened) is something that raises emotions of anger and outrage, and rational thinking can quickly get cast aside.
men feeling protective of women they have strong feelings for is natural and a good thing, but lashing out people who may not be involved just makes a bad situation worse
so i think it's important to put down a marker now, before this thread blows up (as it has done in the past), to say that speculation is not helpful when these situations arise
if Vivian choses to (and she isn't obliged to share any details of her private life with fans, so no one should expect her to), perhaps she will explain more in due course. until then expressions of support for her are good, but intrusive questioning about what happened and who was responsible may not be what she wants to hear right now
dap-addict wrote:Lets support her in all ways we can!
absolutely agreed.