avanfurwet wrote:His silly mind games with models (does his "persuasive" behaviour amount to abuse of some of them?) and his alleged underhand dealings with "agencies"; those are reasons to complain.
The rest of his narcissistic self-aggrandising storytelling is just noise.
What?? Mind games? Nah, impossibile.
Many narcissists play mind games that force you to constantly remain on the defensive. The best way to deal with this dynamic is to recognize it and stop playing. To deal with a narcissist you have to keep your ego out.
Don't play the "blame game". A narcissist, of course, is always right in their own mind, which means they need someone to blame for any mistakes. At some point it will be you. Instead of trying to argue or explain how it's his fault or feeling emotionally involved, you need to set boundaries. You'll need to keep track of what he did, so you can prove (in a non-accusatory tone) the contrary.
Narcissists tend to be very clever liars. If you remember something very different from what they say (especially if it puts them in a bad light) don't start doubting yourself. Don't try to argue, though, if there is no absolute empirical evidence that you are right. Even then, a narcissist will be able to turn the situation around in his favor.
The most important thing to remember is to cultivate a non-reactive attitude towards him. If there is a narcissist in your life, there will be jabs, jokes and lies. Do not answer. It's like a captive ball, only you don't need to grab the ball and throw it again. In reality, let the ball (insults, mind games, etc.) run to the past.