Anal with an element of gay in a non-sexual kind of way?

[101mike101]

Once in a while you get people who claim that guys having anal sex with the ladies is gay. Because anal sex is gay.

And everybody would jump on them and say that this is heterosexual attraction between a guy and a lady. Which makes their anal sex heterosexual.

I used to be one of those people who would say that it's heterosexual and not gay. But I've thought about it some more, and now I'm not so sure anymore.

Perhaps both sides are only partly right. And the truth is somewhere in between. Anal for the lady might be heterosexual sex with an element of gay in a non-sexual kind of way.

Because ass is something everybody has. So, there is no pussy-mystery at all, when a guy goes anal on the girl. A guy can imagine what it's like for her and understand what it's like for her. So, he becomes one with her not just with his cock but also with his mind. Which makes it a more intimate experience for the guy, than pussy sex.

The anal lady is like one of the guys. Everybody has an ass, and so does she. So, you can feel with her the same kind of companionship and friendship that you feel with other guys and have her as your favorite fuck-buddy too.

That's why I say that anal with a lady might be heterosexual sex with an element of gay in a non-sexual kind of way. And the reason why guys like it is because it's more intimate than pussy-sex.

In anal sex, the guy unites with the lady in both his body and mind. While in pussy-sex, their union is mostly physical, while their minds are mostly apart. It's a less intimate experience for the guy.

[scarletxxx666]

the world is full of people that has very low levels of intelligence

why you care if random people with the intelligence of a stone (although the stone at least dont say bs (the stone dont say nothing))
say fucking a girl in the ass is gay????

hahahahah is so ******** dumb

'fucking a girl in the ass is gay'

ugh is just so ****** why would you even care

those people are close to schizophrenic

and there are tons of them everywhere

[scarletxxx666]

also anal is far hotter than vaginal (even though is much dirtier)

vaginas look gross from the point of view of beauty

aroused vaginas look sad

[101mike101]

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why you care if random people with the intelligence of a stone (although the stone at least dont say bs (the stone dont say nothing))
say fucking a girl in the ass is gay???? ....

For me, this isn't about caring what people say. It's about understanding why ass is hotter than pussy for many heterosexual porn-fans.

Physically speaking, there isn't much difference for the guy in terms of the sensations he feels, when he drills. So, it has to be something in the guy's mental part of sex that makes anal so attractive.

There is a big difference between banging a robotic silicon sex-doll and banging a real woman. And this difference isn't in the physical sensation. The difference is in the mental part of sex, where you imagine your partner's mind inside your own, and this way you experience both your partner's thoughts and feelings together with your own at the same time.

This is essentially a union of minds. It's not a true union, of course. Because your partner's mind inside your own is a creation of your own mind. But it's as close as you can get to being mentally and emotionally united with another person.

My theory is that anal-sex for the lady enables guys to have a better union of their minds with hers, than what is possible with pussy-sex. Because guys have an ass, just like the lady. So, it's relatively easy for guys to imagine what the lady thinks and feels during her anal sex. They imagine her mind inside their own, and have a sexual union of their minds with hers. Which is very pleasant for them.

But it doesn't work this way for pussy-sex. Because guys don't have a pussy, and it's hard for them to imagine what the lady thinks and feels during her pussy-sex with a guy. So, their sexual union of minds with hers isn't nearly as good or as complete, as it is in anal-sex for her.

This theory might or might not be true. And there is a scientific way to test it. Because this theory predicts that heterosexual guys with high empathic ability will like anal porn more, than guys with low empathic ability.

Imagining another person's mind inside your own is basically empathy and empathic ability. Which some people are good at and some are not. So, guys with high empathic ability will enjoy anal-porn more, because they are really good at the mental part of sex. While guys with low empathic ability aren't that good at the mental part of sex, and for this reason anal porn might not have any special attraction for them.

And there is a relatively easy way for psychologists to measure people's empathic ability. So, if you take a randomly selected group of porn-fans and separate them into high empathics and low empathics. And then you can test to see if the high empathics like anal porn more than the low empathics. If there is no difference between these two groups, then my theory is wrong. But if high empathics like anal porn more than low empathics, then my theory is probably correct.

[Jocke]

The attraction of anal sex could be different for different people. What is your own reason?

For me the main attraction in all sex is that you do something very intimate in a collaboration where both of you know that you are doing something a bit taboo. Since everyone is expected to do procreational sex, even if you are not talking about it, it is less taboo. I mean people have children without talking about how they got them. However not everyone can be assumed to have anal sex. It is sex only for pleasure and you do it with a part of your body which you do the most dirty thing with. I am especially into ass licking because that is the body part you are the least expected to put your tongue in and when you do it you are confirming both your own and her secret dirty desire. The same reasoning apply to pissing.

[Jocke]

When it comes to homosexuality there is wide spectrum and you are not either or, or at least very few people are.

When you watch the LP ladies lick pussy, do you think of them as gay or lesbian? I don't. I think of them as having sex with another person. Since I enjoy licking pussy I can fully empathise and I don't feel gay when doing it so why couldn't a woman enjoy the same thing as I do? I think of it as if I share a cherry pie with a lady I expect us to enjoy it in the same way. If we share a pussy I would feel the same. Men and women most of the time can enjoy the same things so why not the same things in sex?

Having a penis or not or having a vagina or not makes certain things possible or impossible but other forms of sexual intimacy could be the same except for what we are socially conditioned to. Why are so many priests gay? Why are so many inmates gay? Why was the whole Greek army gay in antiquity? Because if it is socially acceptable and no opposite sex is available most men would accept their attraction to all genders. Why are so many female porn stars doing homosexual acts while so few men? Are women more attracted to their own gender? No it is just that it is socially acceptable and therefore easier for them. Male porn stars can be shunned for performing in gay porn. Even doing double penetrations can be viewed as questionable. Women doing girl-girl scenes (almost all of them) are seldom viewed as gay! It is all about social norms.

[101mike101]

The attraction of anal sex could be different for different people. What is your own reason?

For me the main attraction in all sex is that you do something very intimate in a collaboration where both of you know that you are doing something a bit taboo. Since everyone is expected to do procreational sex, even if you are not talking about it, it is less taboo. I mean people have children without talking about how they got them. However not everyone can be assumed to have anal sex. It is sex only for pleasure and you do it with a part of your body which you do the most dirty thing with. I am especially into ass licking because that is the body part you are the least expected to put your tongue in and when you do it you are confirming both your own and her secret dirty desire. The same reasoning apply to pissing.

I think most people most of the time don't know why they like this or that. Because liking isn't something you consciously think about and intentionally decide to do. It's something that happens automatically on its own. And you only become aware of the liking experience, without any awareness of the mental mechanism that makes it happen. This mechanism is subconscious and hidden from your awareness.

So, there is no way to find out why you like this or that just by examining your conscious thoughts and feelings. It's something you can only theorize about and find out through experimentation, when the theory predicts something that you can test.

But I agree that the attraction of anal action can happen in different ways and for different reasons for different people. The mental mechanism I've described above probably isn't the only one.

Because some people might like painful anal sex, which they call painal. And in this case, their mental mechanism is probably something other than empathy, or it's a modified kind of empathy called antipathy. Which is the opposite of empathy, or a negative kind of empathy.

I think for me personally, the empathy mechanism is probably the reason why I like anal porn more than pussy porn.

When you watch porn, then it's all mental. Because the lady isn't even there in the room with you. So, people basically enjoy porn mostly with their minds, rather than their bodies. And this means that the mental part of sex is more important in porn than in any other kind of sex. And this makes porn good for studying and understanding the various subconscious mental mechanisms that people have for liking and enjoying sex.

The problem with theories about why you like this or that is that these theories need to be testable and falsifiable through experimentation and observation. Or else there is no way to know if these theories are correct or wrong. Without the ability to test and show one way or the other, you can have two opposing theories and not know which one is right and which one is wrong. So, you can't make any progress in understanding it.

Untestable theories are like dead end ideas that stop you from going any further, without giving you any real understanding.

[analwithyourgirl]

also anal is far hotter than vaginal (even though is much dirtier)

vaginas look gross from the point of view of beauty

aroused vaginas look sad

Yes, it’s hotter and more tabu. The look of pussy after hard fuck is basic, the look of ass after hard fucking is fascinating.

[Pineapples Studio]

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Maybe it’s 100% gay. Who gives a shit? Just be true to yourself.

[101mike101]

Maybe it’s 100% gay. Who gives a shit? Just be true to yourself.

I think it's important to understand why many porn-fans often want to see porn-ladies take on the anal guys.

Because if you don't say why, then other people will say it for you. And their view of it won't be sympathetic. They'll say it's because you are a pervert, or because you are a misogynist who hates women, or because you are a sadist who wants to see women hurt.

That's the kind of stuff unsympathetic people say, especially when they have an axe to grind against porn in general. And this isn't just harmless talk. Politicians say this kind of stuff to slander porn and everybody who participates in it, so that they can ban it.

So, if you like anal porn and enjoy it, then you need to think about it too and find some reasons and explanations for why it's good. Or else, only the haters will be talking about it and slandering both you and the porn industry in general.

Silence is a sign of agreement. So, when people are saying bad things about it, and you don't say anything for yourself. Then this automatically makes you look guilty of everything you are being accused of.

[Pineapples Studio]

On the other hand, you shouldn’t allow others to put you on the defensive so easily.

[netzerkaiser]

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Maybe it’s 100% gay. Who gives a shit? Just be true to yourself.

Absolutely. Just be what you are. Good luck to you. Life is short. Don't over-complicate it. Ananas is right. No judges here.

[101mike101]

On the other hand, you shouldn’t allow others to put you on the defensive so easily.

I believe that you should speak in a positive way for yourself, even before anybody says anything negative against you. Because this way your accusers will be on the defensive and not you.

He or she who speaks first is the one who needs to be answered. And there is no good answer for an accuser, who can't read your mind and who doesn't know your true reasons and intentions. So, if you put it out there in a positive and a reasonable way, then you defeat your accusers, before they even say anything against you.

Silence is a vacuum that can be filled either with positive or negative ideas. And once it's filled, then displacing its content with the opposite is an uphill battle. So, the one who speaks first is the one who has the advantage.

A good example of what happens when people don't say anything in public for themselves is sex-workers outside the porn industry. In many countries, these people are named and defined by their detractors and opponents so much so, that even when they finally speak for themselves, then no one listens to them. So, they end up without any freedoms and rights.

It would be nice just to have your rights and freedoms and not have to defend them from anyone. But unfortunately, the world isn't this secure and nice. Because in any society, you can get more rights and freedoms for yourself by encroaching on the rights and freedoms of others and doing it at their expense. So, it's a constant political fight to protect your rights and freedoms. And if you don't fight for what you have, then you will lose it.