To share Your health and other problems

[bustylady]

You can ask about anything here, some of us will tell what your doctors/advicers don't tell you...

[101mike101]

You can ask about anything here, some of us will tell what your doctors/advicers don't tell you...

A lot of guys, including myself, want to last longer in bed with their lady, than they actually do. Perhaps you can give some advice for cocky guys how to last for a long time.

Lasting for a long time is relatively simple, if you don't care about making it pleasant too. Because all you need to do is interrupt the sex and wait for a while and then continue. But what do you do during the wait? And how do you keep it pleasant for both during such interruptions?

[bustylady]

Foreplay...
only 18% of vagina owners have the capacity to orgasm from direct penetration... Touch her, kiss her, lick her, tickle her, manhandle her... love her

[bustylady]

Forgot flirting...

[101mike101]

Foreplay...
only 18% of vagina owners have the capacity to orgasm from direct penetration... Touch her, kiss her, lick her, tickle her, manhandle her... love her

The word 'foreplay' implies that it's something you do before sexual intercourse. It's a way to get aroused, rather than a way to last longer during penetrative sex. Because if you do it during penetrative sex or during its interruptions, then calling it 'foreplay' doesn't make sense anymore.

Perhaps calling it 'sex-play' rather than 'foreplay' would be more appropriate. Calling it 'sex-play' doesn't restrict it to pre-intercourse only. You can do it any time during your session with the lady.

And I think this statistic of only 18% women capable of orgasming during penetrative sex is misleading. Because such statistics come from surveys and verbal self-reports, rather from experimentation and direct observation.

How do you know that all of these people were doing it the same way, and the only difference was that some women orgasmed and some didn't? Most likely, there were huge differences in the way these women had sex with their partners. And it was these differences in sexual activity that made the most difference for their orgasm or lack of it.

For a example, when a woman is with a partner who lasts for a long time with her, then she will more likely orgasm, than a woman with a partner who lasts only for a short time. And when the guy manually stimulates his woman's clitoris during his sexual intercourse with her, then she will more likely orgasm during her vaginal intercourse, than a woman who doesn't get any such stimulation from her partner.

Or a guy can modify his vaginal sex position with the lady to provide more stimulation for her with his cock and help her orgasm this way. One way to do it is for the guy to enter his lady's pussy in the missionary position. Then he uses his legs to bring her legs close together, and he puts his legs on the outside of her legs. This mades her pussy very tight, and he stimulates her clitoris with his cock a lot during the ride, especially if he moves himself forward on her and presses the shaft of his cock against the upper part of her pussy, where her clitoris is.

The verbal surveys of women orgasming or not orgasming during vaginal penetration don't take any of these other factors into account. And these other factors probably make all the difference in whether the woman has orgasms during her vaginal sex or not.

[bustylady]

Foreplay is the main play actually...

[bustylady]

The anatomy and physiology of the female , learn that first...

[bustylady]

Edit: 'Psychology' not physiology

[bustylady]

I had acid reflux problems about 5-7 years ago, I could figure out how to prevent it... If anyone is suffering from the same(acid reflux is main problem in bed patients), this will help...
The main cause of acid reflux is Hydrochloric acid(HCl). H+ ions in stomach combines with Cl- ions to form HCl. That is, the main cause of acid reflux is Cl-, Our body gets Cl- ions from NaCl/KCl(Salt, both Sodium chloride& potassium chloride). That is, if you avoid salt you will control acid reflux... Potassium Phosphate can expel salt from your blood, which you will get from banana(Robusta). Eating one banana can reduce blood pressure and prevent heart burn. For instant heart burn relief, drink a glass of milk or eat protein rich foods, HCl reacts with protein, which will reduce stomach acid... Your doctor won't tell you this, i had to figure this out by myself... help others to help you..
Ask if you have any helth problems, someone will help...

[netzerkaiser]

You can ask about anything here, some of us will tell what your doctors/advicers don't tell you...

Lovely thought. I'm ok, but thanks for the thought. With covid restrictions easing somewhat, hopefully many of us can get back to healthier physical activity again. Thanks Bustylady.

[magizi87]

Lasting for a long time is relatively simple, if you don't care about making it pleasant too. Because all you need to do is interrupt the sex and wait for a while and then continue. But what do you do during the wait? And how do you keep it pleasant for both during such interruptions?

Stop jerking off.

Here is the explanation

People who fast forward through a porn movie
looking for an specific act to jerk off to
train their brain to cum as quickly as possible
while their favorite act is happening on the screen.

Keyword is training. If you cum too early, it's because of years of porn training, lol.

Also while having sex

Concentrate more deeply into her rather than into you.

This helps a lot.

[Pineapples Studio]

The main cause of acid reflux is Hydrochloric acid(HCl). H+ ions in stomach combines with Cl- ions to form HCl. That is, the main cause of acid reflux is Cl-, Our body gets Cl- ions from NaCl/KCl(Salt, both Sodium chloride& potassium chloride). That is, if you avoid salt you will control acid reflux... Potassium Phosphate can expel salt from your blood, which you will get from banana(Robusta). Eating one banana can reduce blood pressure and prevent heart burn. For instant heart burn relief, drink a glass of milk or eat protein rich foods, HCl reacts with protein, which will reduce stomach acid... Your doctor won't tell you this, i had to figure this out by myself... help others to help you..

Dude, I thought this was just an ED support thread until you came along with this science lesson.

[bustylady]

Regular workouts to keep you healthy
Push-ups - 20×4
Calf raises - 20×4
Squats - 15×4
Funnel biceps curl - 20×4
Forearm Plank - 30s×4
Sphincter Muscle Contraction & Releasing - 10×4 (To prevent hemerroids)

Blood sugar & Cholesterol
Sugar - Food you eat(Wheat, rice, sweet fruits...)
If the blood sugar is low, eat more food, not sweeteners or candy.
If it's normal, reduce the consumption of sweeteners, candy, chocolates...

Cholesterol- Fat(Lipoprotien, HDL, LDL)
Not good for your health, especially animal fats, egg, butter(Source of LDL- bad cholesterol).
Reduce the consumption of oils

Follow this to stay healthy...

[bustylady]

Edit: Dumbbell biceps curl, not funnel

[101mike101]

Lasting for a long time is relatively simple, if you don't care about making it pleasant too. Because all you need to do is interrupt the sex and wait for a while and then continue. But what do you do during the wait? And how do you keep it pleasant for both during such interruptions?

Stop jerking off.

Here is the explanation

People who fast forward through a porn movie
looking for an specific act to jerk off to
train their brain to cum as quickly as possible
while their favorite act is happening on the screen.

Keyword is training. If you cum too early, it's because of years of porn training, lol.

Also while having sex

Concentrate more deeply into her rather than into you.

This helps a lot.

Your advice is the opposite of what some sex-therapists give. Because some sex-therapists advise to start jerking off in a way that makes you last for a long time. And once you learn to last for a long time this way, then have sex this way too, the same way as you jerk off.

But I don't think this advice works well. Because if your partner isn't in on it and doesn't know why you want to do it in a certain way, then it won't work well. Basically you partner needs to know that you want to last for a long time and understand why you are doing it slowly and/or interrupt it once in a while. And of course, this isn't just about you. You need to make it pleasant for your partner too. Or else, your partner might get bored and refuse to continue.

Having sex with a partner is fundamentally different from solo masturbation. And that's why you can't learn how to do it well with a partner by practicing solo masturbation first.

In masturbation, you simply stop and wait, when you come close to orgasm, and then you continue again once your intense feeling recedes. But when you do this kind of thing with a partner, who is really enjoying it at the moment, then such an interruption is a big disappointment, and it's not pleasant at all for the girl. So, your partner in such a situation might lose interest and try to end it quickly. And this can be another reason why you don't last for a long time, even when you know the technique for your own dick through solo masturbation.

With a partner, you might need to switch back and forth between performing cunnilingus on the lady and banging her with your cock. This way, your interruptions are actually more pleasant for her. And she doesn't lose her interest in doing it with you. And this is just an example. Because you can do more or less the same things with well-lubricated fingers and hands on the lady's pussy as you can do with your mouth and tongue.

You basically need to keep it pleasant for your partner, even while you are interrupting yourself. Or else, your partner might want to end it, when while you want to continue. And this isn't something you can learn from solo masturbation. It's something you can only learn with a partner.

So, practicing with a partner, who understands what you want to do and why, is probably the best way to learn how to last for a long time.

[magizi87]

I have never been to a "sex-therapist" before, heh.

But, when I was younger, watching Peter North movies,
I always wondered how he had so much cum when ejaculating,
and I studied his movies closely.

If you pay attention, you will notice that he masturbates,
in a noticeably different way to most other guys.

There is a lot of literature about this stuff and I like reading.

Anyways.

While I was on my quest to make my ejaculations, more massive,
I decided to stop masturbating to porn, as many suggested and pretty much stopped masturbating period.

And while that did helped a lot with the amount of cum in my ejaculations,
I also noticed I could fuck for much more time than before.
(not right away, but like months apart, 6-8 months later perhaps).

I don't know how you fuck, but for me, fucking does not necessarily require my cock all the time.
I have hands, tongue, face, forearms, feet, etc, get creative, use toys...

ALSO, the only way my wife say something like,

"that's enough"

Has more to do with genital irritation, rather than boredom or fatigue.

[101mike101]

I have never been to a "sex-therapist" before, heh.

But, when I was younger, watching Peter North movies,
I always wondered how he had so much cum when ejaculating,
and I studied his movies closely.

If you pay attention, you will notice that he masturbates,
in a noticeably different way to most other guys.

There is a lot of literature about this stuff and I like reading.

Anyways.

While I was on my quest to make my ejaculations, more massive,
I decided to stop masturbating to porn, as many suggested and pretty much stopped masturbating period.

And while that did helped a lot with the amount of cum in my ejaculations,
I also noticed I could fuck for much more time than before.
(not right away, but like months apart, 6-8 months later perhaps).

I don't know how you fuck, but for me, fucking does not necessarily require my cock all the time.
I have hands, tongue, face, forearms, feet, etc, get creative, use toys...

ALSO, the only way my wife say something like,

"that's enough"

Has more to do with genital irritation, rather than boredom or fatigue.

I'd say that genital irritation is a sign that you are doing something wrong, like not using enough lube or not adding some water to dried out lube to rehydrate it and make it slippery again. Because as you usually see in porn movies, many ladies in porn routinely take on several guys for a good 30 to 40 minutes, and genital irritation doesn't seem to be a problem for them.

From own experience I would say that condom use often is what causes genital irritation. Because dried out rubber isn't slippery at all. It really rubs the girl. So, you really need to watch it in terms having enough lubrication when you are using a condom.

My advice for condom users is to use more lube than you need and periodically add a splash of water to rehydrate the lube and make it slippery again. Because the water in the lube tends to get absorbed by the woman's body. It also dries out in the air. And when the lube doesn't have enough water, then it's not slippery anymore.

You can't just apply lots of lube at the start and forget about it. You have to make sure it stays slippery by adding a splash of water once in a while. Or else it won't work as intended.

[magizi87]

I use saliva for lubrication, also sperm when we do it multiple times, and no condoms.

[101mike101]

I use saliva for lubrication, also sperm when we do it multiple times, and no condoms.

Using saliva can cause a vaginal yeast infection. It might work as lubrication, but it's not as safe as using water-based lube and clean water to re-hydrate it.

https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/yeast-infection-from-oral#vaginal-infection

I can say from my own experience that water-based lube is much more slippery than saliva, when you use plenty of such lube and add some water to it. So, if the lady has a problem with irritation and you can't bang her as long as you see guys bang in porn-movies, then switching from saliva to water-based lube with some water added to it might help you solve this problem.

I found that water-based lube, the way it comes from its container, isn't that slippery either. But if you add some extra water to it, then it become much more slippery, far more slippery than saliva or oil or any lubricant you can think of.

[nelson_sanchez]

Lasting for a long time is relatively simple, if you don't care about making it pleasant too. Because all you need to do is interrupt the sex and wait for a while and then continue. But what do you do during the wait? And how do you keep it pleasant for both during such interruptions?

Stop jerking off.

Here is the explanation

People who fast forward through a porn movie
looking for an specific act to jerk off to
train their brain to cum as quickly as possible
while their favorite act is happening on the screen.

Keyword is training. If you cum too early, it's because of years of porn training, lol.

Also while having sex

Concentrate more deeply into her rather than into you.

This helps a lot.

very true, if you want to last longer stop watching porn and jk. do this for one year, then you'll last as long as you want. during this year do not have sex either.

[101mike101]

very true, if you want to last longer stop watching porn and jk. do this for one year, then you'll last as long as you want. during this year do not have sex either.

Your advice is the opposite of what experts in sexual health say. Because the human body and its function works according to the 'Use it or lose it' principle. Which means that if you stop having sex for a long time, then you will lose some of your sexual desire and ability.

Medical experts in sexual health say that frequent sex is healthy. And if your sexual activity isn't frequent enough, then you are going to lose some of your sexual function and ability.

https://www.bostonmedicalgroup.com/sexual-function-use-it-or-lose-it/

https://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/features/sex-use-it-or-lose-it

And incidentally, this principle of 'use it or lose it' is the reason why watching porn and masturbating with it is good for your sexual health. This is like practicing and training to stay in good shape for the time when you need to do it for real. Or else, some day an opportunity will arise. But you might end up with erection problems or something like that.

[magizi87]

I don't think you understood what I tried to say,

I said, stop masturbating to porn.

I never said, stop having sex.

If you still want to masturbate, talk your wife/gf/lover into having more sex instead.

You seem to think that jerking off, is going to help you last longer,
but in my experience, is the opposite.

[101mike101]

I don't think you understood what I tried to say,

I said, stop masturbating to porn.

I never said, stop having sex.

If you still want to masturbate, talk your wife/gf/lover into having more sex instead.

You seem to think that jerking off, is going to help you last longer,
but in my experience, is the opposite.

The point of lasting longer is to extend you pleasure and have more of it.

If you restrict yourself sexually and don't enjoy porn anymore, then you might last longer with your partner alright. But it might be because you have some trouble getting it up for the ride. Which isn't much fun at all, neither for you nor for your girl.

Porn gives you new hot women to masturbate about. Which is exciting in itself. Doing it with the same partner over and over again eventually gets boring and unexciting, even when you try to do different things. So, watching some porn and masturbating to some new hot lady you really like can help you with that. It's like you get to cheat with the new hot lady and get to know her with your cock in your imagination. And then you come home and also do your regular partner with your bone.

By watching porn, you get to have many women, at least in your imagination. And you become such a stud, that you also end up nailing your regular lady like a slut.

The only problem with this approach is that some women get jealous and yell at you for watching other hot women, perhaps more hot than they are, and masturbating to them. Because they see it as cheating, and they don't like it.

So, watching porn with your lady might be the thing to do. This way, she gets to fantasize about the guys and you about the lady.

From my own experience I would say that lasting longer with your partner in a pleasant kind of way depends on your partner understanding what you want to do and helping you do it. It's not so much in the technique, as it is in being with a sympathetic chick, who doesn't hurry your dick.

If you watch porn with your lady, then you can use it as a guide for how the two of you also do the ride. Basically you do the same things that the guy and the lady in the scene do. And you can slow down the video or stop it, if you need more time to get into some position and penetrate the lady.

This way you can last as long as the porn scene lasts. And it feels like an orgy, with an exciting new hot lady banging beside you on a large screen, while your lady focuses on the cocky guy banging this chick with their dick.

Totally depending on your partner for sexual satisfaction is like not having any friends and totally depending on your partner for companionship. This kind of thing is stifling and unrealistic for good success. Cheating with real ladies brings problems of its own. But having porn as a part of your sex-life for both you and her is a good compromise.

[bustylady]

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[Bodum]

The only thing that always brought me happiness was weight training at the gym.

I was diagnosed with osteoarthritis of the knee last week and now I have to give up working out. There's nothing I can do. Even holding a dumbbell in my hand brings so much pain to my knees.