What's the big deal about slut appeal?

[101mike101]

I've often wondered why guys like a different kind of women in porn, than they do in real life?

In porn, guys fall for the sluttiest chicks, who spread their cheeks and take multiple dicks. But when the same guys look for girlfriends and wives in real life, then they aren't necessarily looking for the biggest slut around. They might even reject a lady who has been around with too many guys.

If sluts are so hot in porn, when why not fall for them in real life too?

I think the reason for this difference might be because porn-stars are with other guys. But our girlfriends and wives are with us.

When a woman is with other guys, then she usually isn't available for us too. The lady is taken we assume and look for someone else. And this is the kind of thing women in porn need to defeat, or else they aren't going to have any fans.

If the woman is a real slut, then she doesn't care how many guys she is already with. She might go for you too anyway. And this is why guys look for real sluts in porn.

When a woman is with other guys, then you want her to be a real slut, so that she might do it with you too. But when a woman is already with you as your girlfriend or wife, then you normally don't want her to be such a slut that she would start doing it with other guys too.

I think this is the reason why guys want real sluts in porn but more restrained women in real life. It all depends on whether the lady is with you or with other guys.

[magizi87]

In entertainment, you expect to be "wowed"
You expect something extraordinary.

For example,

When you watch a futbol game,
you expect players who are "very good" at it.

When you are watching porn, it's the same deal.

Whether a pornstar is an actual slut outside of a porn set,
I don't care at all. All I care for, is that she is good during the movie.

Marriage has nothing to do with it.
It's a social contract where both persons involved
set rules and agreements that they choose to live by.

[avanfurwet]

Different people like different things.

The stereotypical porn scene fantasy "storyline" is about young women having wild sexual adventures with strangers.

The fantasy can be about peak experiences, on vacation, at wild parties, whatever.

Doesn't have to imply the women habitually behave that way.

For some viewers the "good girls gone bad" adventure fantasy can be hotter.

[tavelsesquin]

You're not going to catch an STD watching porn.

Although even in porn, I prefer the innocent-looking "girl next door" type actresses to the deranged cock-addicts with a million tattoos and a butthole as wide as the Brandenburg Gate. To each their own.

[101mike101]

In entertainment, you expect to be "wowed"
You expect something extraordinary.

For example,

When you watch a futbol game,
you expect players who are "very good" at it.

When you are watching porn, it's the same deal....

I agree, people want the best of everything. But what's best seems to depend on your point of view.

When a hot lady is with other guys in a movie, and you look at her from a 3rd person point of view. Then you want to see this lady spread her cheeks for all the dicks and let them all take turns with her. She is best when she is a slut and lets all the guys nail her sexy butt.

But when a hot lady is with you, and you see her from a 1st person point of view. Then you don't want her to be such a slut that she starts doing it with other guys too. She is best when she stays with you and doesn't spread her cheeks for all the other dicks.

In the first situation, the woman is best when she is a slut. In the second situation, the woman is best when she is not a slut. This looks to me like a contradiction, and it needs some explanation.

I think the reason why guys want women to be sluts in porn is because it's hard to fantasize about the lady, when she is already with another guy. She looks taken and unavailable. But if the woman is a slut, then you still have a chance with her, even if she is already with another guy. So, by making herself look like a slut in porn, the lady enables all the fans to fantasize about her pussy and buns.

There is a mental barrier that fans need to overcome, before they can fantasize about any porn lady. Because the lady in porn is always with other guys. Which makes her look unavailable and hard to fantasize about. So, the lady in porn needs to behave like a slut to break this mental barrier of porn-fans and enable them to fantasize about her pussy and buns.

Perhaps this is why some porn-fans can't fantasize about pussy-only ladies and don't watch them in porn movies. These fans need to see the hot chicks take anal dicks, before they can fantasize about them. Because anal is a taboo. This is something only sluts will do. So, when these fans see the lady spread her cheeks for anal dicks, then their mental barrier about her is broken, and their desire for her is woken. They can now fantasize about her.

Some people say that porn-fans are obsessed about anal for women. And they leave it at that, as if it's something bad. But I think this is a misunderstanding. Because it's hard to fantasize about a hot lady, who is with another guy. There is a mental barrier to overcome. And the lady helps you do that by taking anal guys inside her sexy butt.

[magizi87]

When I was 12, I remember a teacher, asking us, the students,
to ask our parents, if they practice or have tried anal sex.

I live in a country, where sex shops are in plain sight,
and they are not hiding what they are about.
You see the sex toys and the outfits, through a glass window. Just saying.

Magazine outlets with porn magazines in plain sight
and newspapers with a half-naked woman posing seductively
on the front page.

I have seen sex shops next to churches. lol

Anal sex is probably not as taboo as in other cultures.
I had anal sex with all of my girlfriends, lol.

I didn't need to talk them into it, either.

There must be a reason why Gonzo directors are Mexican,
we are just horny all the time, ALL the FUCKING time. lol

[101mike101]

When I was 12, I remember a teacher, asking us, the students,
to ask our parents, if they practice or have tried anal sex.

I live in a country, where sex shops are in plain sight,
and they are not hiding what they are about.
You see the sex toys and the outfits, through a glass window. Just saying.

Magazine outlets with porn magazines in plain sight
and newspapers with a half-naked woman posing seductively
on the front page.

I have seen sex shops next to churches. lol

Anal sex is probably not as taboo as in other cultures.
I had anal sex with all of my girlfriends, lol.

I didn't need to talk them into it, either.

There must be a reason why Gonzo directors are Mexican,
we are just horny all the time, ALL the FUCKING time. lol

I'm guessing that the country you are talking about might be Netherlands. I've never been there. But Netherlands has a reputation of being more sexually liberal than other European countries.

But liberty is just freedom for the people to be the way they want. It doesn't eliminate personal, religious, and cultural taboos that people choose to abide by on their own.

So, even in your country a lot of women probably have never had anal sex, and they treat it as a taboo. It might not be a social and a political taboo anymore. But it's still a sign of how sexually liberal and sexually available the lady is for guys. A lady who does anal with guys is a lady who is likely to have more than one boyfriend. It's a sign that she is more sexually available, than a lady who does only pussy and no ass.

[InsideA41YearOldGirl]

I do't see any appeal whatsoever in a woman being depraved. I do not enjoy any enjoyment of women enjoying anything. I only enjoy them losing control.

I only see this kind of videos because they are pretty. Nothing more, nothing less. I already know they had sex with several guys, probably for money. Some already had kids and maybe are doing this because they found no other easy way of sustaining them, which is noble, I guess.

I found your POVs to be alien, specially of the Netherlands guy. Lack of restraint means moral decadence to me. I'm not talking from a moralists, better-than-thou movement. I just found it to be a signal of lack of will, of being a doormat, of "not caring" about anything. And if you don't care about anything, your life has no meaning. It goes beyond private rooms. I bet other aspects of the life of our Western European friend aren't stable as he would like to admit. If that is how everybody on the Netherlands, behave, well, their future don't looks good. Better be not.

[dap-addict]

I found your POVs to be alien, specially of the Netherlands guy.

Isnt it Mexico he's talking about?
Anyway, I agree 99% with magizi on this one.

[101mike101]

I don't see any appeal whatsoever in a woman being depraved. I do not enjoy any enjoyment of women enjoying anything. I only enjoy them losing control....

Porn sex is voluntary sex. So, women in porn don't lose control. They give it up voluntarily as a part of their sex act. And they can take it back any time they want by saying an agreed upon code word. That's how all porn scenes are usually done, and that's how LP porn scenes are probably done too.

I think porn women having sex with multiple guys at the same time isn't about losing control. It's about showing to the viewer that they don't belong to any guy, and that they are available for every guy. And the reason for doing this is to help their fans fantasize about their pussies and buns.

Porn sex is done for the audience and not for the guys fucking in the scene. So, both the lady and her fucking guys need to make it look like she is such a slut, that even guys from the audience could potentially join in the fun to nail her sexy bum. It's all done for show, of course. She isn't like that in her real life. But show or not, she does need to behave like a slut and take multiple guys inside her sexy butt. Because this is what makes her look available and fantasizable for the audience watching her.

A lady with other guys usually looks taken and unavailable to you. The only exception to this rule is slut. So, the lady needs to behave like such a slut, that she looks available to you anyway, despite her being with other guys.

I think this is the reason why porn-stars need to cultivate their slut image and do slutty things in porn. And this is the reason why some porn-fans want to see porn ladies take on multiple guys and do anal with guys. A lady with another guy is hard to fantasize about, unless she makes herself the slut exception. And that's what ladies in porn do, when they take on multiple guys and do anal too.

[sefb13]

my favorite girlfriends have been the ones who were into getting DP'd and fucked by multiple guys. I still fuck one of my exes occasionally when she needs more than one dick, and i've been having some great conversations about group sex, with my current partner who just sucked my best friend's dick in front of me a few weeks ago. she said it might not be for her, but seeing her even trying it was a huge turn-on for me.

i dont know what you dudes are on about. sluts are the best.

[101mike101]

my favorite girlfriends have been the ones who were into getting DP'd and fucked by multiple guys. I still fuck one of my exes occasionally when she needs more than one dick, and i've been having some great conversations about group sex, with my current partner who just sucked my best friend's dick in front of me a few weeks ago. she said it might not be for her, but seeing her even trying it was a huge turn-on for me.

i dont know what you dudes are on about. sluts are the best.

I suppose, a girlfriend, who does multiple guys, probably wouldn't mind if you do multiple girls too. This is the advantage of having such a girlfriend.

But it's usually a lot easier for women to fuck around with guys, than for men. So, you can end up in a situation, where your girlfriend has all the guys she wants, while you have only her, and you are at risk of losing her to some other guy. This kind of a relationship can be unstable, and it can make you feel insecure, not because you are insecure, but there is a good reason to feel insecure.

I can imagine myself being in a relationship with a slut, who does other guys too. It would work for me, if I get to fuck around with other women too. But it's conditioned on me being able to do it with other women too and actually having such women to do it with. Or else, I wouldn't feel good about it.

But in porn it's different. You don't actually have a relationship with the lady in porn. You only desire to have one with her, when she is already with other guys. So in porn, you really want her to be a slut. Or else you have so little chance with her, that it's even hard for you to fantasize about her.

This is the reason why guys often want the lady to be loyal to them, when she is with them. But when the lady is with other guys, then they want her to be a slut, slut enough to do it with them too. It's all about getting the chick with your dick.