Learning from porn for better sex in your personal life

[101mike101]

Making your pleasure last longer with your lady is something virtually every guy wants to do. And many porn-fans are often amazed, when they see porn-studs pounding a hot chick with their dick and lasting for a long time with her too.

So the question is, why exactly do porn-studs last for a long time?

Some say that porn-studs are special. They have inborn talent. Which makes their performance unattainable for ordinary guys.

But I think this is a fatalistic attitude that discourages you from learning and improving.

There is actually no scientific evidence to back up this idea that porn-studs are somehow biologically special compared to ordinary guys. This is pure speculation, without any evidence at all.

Because when you say that the talent of porn-studs is inborn, then it's the same as saying that porn-studs have some special genes that other people don't have. But no such genetic studies have every been done by anyone. It's just an idea that's not supported by any scientific studies or evidence.

So, it makes sense to look closer at how porn-studs actually last longer, and whether this requires any special biological abilities.

One thing to consider is the fact that porn-studs often take turns inside the ass of their hot lass. It's not the same guy who keeps pounding the hot chick with his dick.

These guys actually take breaks and withdraw when they get close to cumming with her. And this kind of thing happens even more than what you see on film. Because films are usually edited. So, the guy can actually take a 10-15 minute break, but the edited film makes it look like he went back inside almost right away.

Withdrawing from the lady and taking a break, when you get close to cumming with her, doesn't require any special biological ability. Any guy can do this to last longer with his lady.

And this is actually something you can test on yourself. When you watch porn and masturbate, then you can make your pleasure last for as long as you want by taking a break when come close to orgasm. Stopping, when you get close to orgasm, requires a little will power. But it's something any guy can do. And this is something that makes you last as long as you want.

So the question is, why don't ordinary guys last as long as they want with their ladies by taking a break, when they get close to orgasm with her? It's not like guys don't know about this technique. It's something guys often do, when they masturbate themselves.

I think the answer to this question has something to do with ladies, rather than with guys. When guys go with an ordinary lady, then quite often they need to work really hard just to get into her pants. The lady does it reluctantly, and she can end it at any time. So, when a guy takes her with his cock, then he doesn't withdraw out of fear that she won't let him go back inside for another ride. And this is the real reason, why ordinary guys find it so difficult to last for a long time with their ladies.

If you don't withdraw, and you just keep pounding her, then of course you won't last. This is common sense even for porn-studs.

So, it's not the guys. It's the ladies who make all the difference in how long guys get to last with them.

Porn ladies are paid to get laid. So, they accommodate their guys and let them do it the way it works best for them. Porn-studs don't need to worry that the lady won't let them go back inside for another ride, if they withdraw from her. So, porn-studs can basically take their ladies the way they would masturbate themselves. They interrupt at will. They wait for their orgasmic pleasure to recede. And then they go back inside for another ride. That's why they can last for so long.

And of course, porn-ladies aren't biologically special either. Because it's the money that makes the difference, whether the lady will let guys take her the way they want or not.

A lot of guys look down on women, who do it for money. And this is something I don't understand. Because these are the ladies who accommodate their guys and let them do it the way they want. It's like these guys don't like women, who are good in bed with them.

So, my advice for cocky guys is to respect female porn-stars, and other women who have sex for money. Because these ladies are likely to be far better in bed with you, than ordinary chicks who take hard dicks.

Some people say that good communication is the key to having good sex with your partner. But I don't think this is true by itself, as a stand-alone argument. Because you can communicate all you want with an ordinary chick and tell her how you want to take her with your cock. But she is far more likely to slap you cheek, than take your dick in response.

When you are in a weak bargaining position with the lady, and she sees no reason to do sexual favors for you, then you often can barely get into her pants. You are very insecure with her. And that's why you don't withdraw, once you go inside her. You do her hard and fast, before she changes her mind. And it's all over, before you know it.

Communication works only when the lady has some reason to listen to you and accommodate you. When ladies are paid to get laid, then they have a good reason to listen to what guys want and do it like that with them. This is where communication works. Or else you end up talking to yourself, while the lady makes you feel insecure with your cock inside her pussy, to say nothing of her ass.

Of course, communication needs to go both ways. Female porn-stars also take breaks to lube up or change whatever feels uncomfortable for them. They need to do this to prevent injury and make it reasonably good for themselves too. You still need to listen to the lady, even when she is trying to accommodate you. Or else, it might not end well.

[dap-addict]

Add pills and injections for porn studs.

[Evil_Del]

Why do porn studs last longer? habituation mainly. When you fucked 1 thousand extremely hot girls in all way possible, your excitation level is not as high. Plus the pills, the injections, the constant stop and go due to camera work etc.
Sometimes their dicks are probably numb.

The hardest thing is maybe to be able to have an erection at all when you are surrounded with other studs and an entire filming crew with a director who asks you to do this and that and to get hard on demand. The level of self confidence involved is off limits.

Even with a hot girl in front of you, most of the guys myself included would probably shrink the first times

[101mike101]

Why do porn studs last longer? habituation mainly. When you fucked 1 thousand extremely hot girls in all way possible, your excitation level is not as high. Plus the pills, the injections, the constant stop and go due to camera work etc.
Sometimes their dicks are probably numb.

The hardest thing is maybe to be able to have an erection at all when you are surrounded with other studs and an entire filming crew with a director who asks you to do this and that and to get hard on demand. The level of self confidence involved is off limits.

Even with a hot girl in front of you, most of the guys myself included would probably shrink the first times

Porn studs are sometimes required to bang the ladies longer than they naturally might want to do, before they take a break. And that's why they need the pills and other techniques.

But with editing, this isn't really necessary. Because all the guy needs to last as long as he wants is to take a break, when he comes close to orgasm.

If the guy himself has control over how long he bangs the girl, before he takes a break, then he can last as long with her as he would in masturbating himself. Which is basically as long as he wants.

It's all about being in control how long you bang the girl, before you take a break in order to last longer with her. And of course, you need to feel secure enough that the lady will let you go back inside for another ride. Or else it doesn't make sense to withdraw, even if you know that you won't last.

In real life, there is no film director telling you and the lady what to do. So, in theory you can bang the lady the way you would masturbate yourself, so that you can last with her as long as you want. But in practice, your bargaining position with your lady is usually so poor, that she won't do any sexual favors for you. It's like you need to be glad she lets you ride her pussy at all. Doing it the way you wan't with her is an unfulfillable fantasy.

Porn ladies make it easy for porn studs to last for a long time with them. Because they get paid to get laid. So, they go out of their way to let the guys do it the way they want. And this is probably by far the biggest reason why porn studs get to last for so long.

There is a big difference between banging a lady, who lets you take a break whenever you feel like it, and a lady who makes you feel so insecure that you aren't sure if she will let you have another ride with her, after you withdraw from her.

I think guys give too little credit to the ladies, when it comes to guys lasting for a long time with them. The lady basically needs to be accommodating with the guy and let him do it the way he wants. Or else, even a porn-stud won't last for long with her. Because the lady will say a big 'No!' to another plow, after the guy takes a break.

[dap-addict]

In real life, there is no film director telling you and the lady what to do. So, in theory you can bang the lady the way you would masturbate yourself, so that you can last with her as long as you want. But in practice, your bargaining position with your lady is usually so poor, that she won't do any sexual favors for you.

In RL you have to as good as to give her enough pleasure so she wants it again and as long as possible.
In porn they dont really have to give her pleasure because they are all payed to stage those sex acts, but of course if a porn stud gives his porn girl(s) pleasure film will be better.
Thus the more pleasure guy can give the better, and the more pleasure he gets back in reward.

[101mike101]

In real life, there is no film director telling you and the lady what to do. So, in theory you can bang the lady the way you would masturbate yourself, so that you can last with her as long as you want. But in practice, your bargaining position with your lady is usually so poor, that she won't do any sexual favors for you.

In RL you have to as good as to give her enough pleasure so she wants it again and as long as possible.
In porn they dont really have to give her pleasure because they are all payed to stage those sex acts, but of course if a porn stud gives his porn girl(s) pleasure film will be better.
Thus the more pleasure guy can give the better, and the more pleasure he gets back in reward.

I agree that pleasing the woman you are with is a necessary part of having good sex.

But some sex-acts are more pleasant for the lady, while other sex-acts are more pleasant for the guy. So, if you try to compromise and create pleasure for both at the same time, then the pleasure won't be entirely good for either one. And the lady might want to end it early just for this reason alone.

I think sexual pleasure works best, when the guy and the lady take turns at pleasing each other. Because when you totally focus on pleasing your partner, then this is when you are best at doing it well. And this is true for both women and guys. But a lot of both women and guys are selfish when it comes to having sex. Once they've had enough pleasure for themselves, then often they won't go out of their way to please their partner too in response. They just end it, when they feel like it for themselves, without any consideration for their partner.

In non-paid sex, women have an upper hand when it comes to having sex with guys. Because it's the women who usually decide whether the guy gets to ride. Men are in an inferior bargaining position, and that's why they don't do well in terms of getting enough pleasure for themselves, even when they try to please the lady they are with. But when the lady gets paid to be laid, then this tilts the bargaining balance the other way, in favor of the guy. The lady then goes out of her way to please the guy she is with. And that's why guys can get enough pleasure for themselves in this kind of situation.

This much you can see even in porn. But paid sex works like this regardless of whether the camera is present there or not. Because it's the money that makes the difference and not the camera.

[dap-addict]

In non-paid sex, women have an upper hand when it comes to having sex with guys. Because it's the women who usually decide whether the guy gets to ride.

You have to manage to make her addicted to you, than it tips the scale in favor of you. Than you also get your rounds, even she wont enjoy it to her max, but she might next round.
Payed sex tips the scale for you only if it adds some extra kink, I'd say.
In porn its just actors doing their job basically, emotions are low, pills and injections are high, but girls may be very helpful to the guys they work with depending on their character.
Also of course they also may get real joy on set, as some studs also do. In general its just too many cuts and re-takes and lights and ppl standing around really.

[dap-addict]

These guys actually take breaks and withdraw when they get close to cumming with her. And this kind of thing happens even more than what you see on film. Because films are usually edited. So, the guy can actually take a 10-15 minute break, but the edited film makes it look like he went back inside almost right away.

Withdrawing from the lady and taking a break, when you get close to cumming with her, doesn't require any special biological ability. Any guy can do this to last longer with his lady.

And this is actually something you can test on yourself. When you watch porn and masturbate, then you can make your pleasure last for as long as you want by taking a break when come close to orgasm. Stopping, when you get close to orgasm, requires a little will power. But it's something any guy can do. And this is something that makes you last as long as you want.

Btw, rather than blaming it on the ladies I'd take this from your posts.
But than again add that porn studs often dont withdraw on their own will, but on directors call. Than they sit and wank their best friends to stay hard and in the mood, while girls have two hands free to do whatever they want. Most of them sit on their smartphones, studs also, some re-lube at the same time. Than its 'Action!'-call again and they fuck another round of 2 to 5min. Studs usually dont come from sex at all, but hard mast work. Btw, watch the last Cindy Shine BTS!

[magizi877]

Here is my experience with porn and IRL sex.

I'm going on a limb here and assume that most of you,
started watching porn, BEFORE you started your sex life. <----- this is KEY.

Probably, an entire decade before.

There is actually a lot of scientific evidence of what I'm about to describe.

I'm not gonna go into the details, if you are interested there are hundreds of papers about this.
books, youtube videos, podcasts, etc, there is a wealth of knowledge about this.

There is so much work about this, you know for sure many smart people care deeply about this, hah!

So in summary. masturbating to porn, trains your body and mind, to ejaculate quickly.

You go to the thing in a porn video, that you like the most,
and you masturbate as hard as you can, so you can cum in the duration of your favorite niche.

And you keep this up for YEARS.

Analogy, guess what happens to your body,
if one day, you decide to run every morning, for a few kilometers,
and you keep that up for the rest of your life, you become a runner that's what happens.
If you masturbate daily, multiple times probably, and you do it with the intent of a quick fix,
you become a guy who cums in under 5 minutes or so. DUH!

Then, one day you start your sex life,
and your love interest discovers you are done in like 5 minutes or whatever it is.

And your logical conclusion is that porn studs are somehow "genetically gifted"

Well, the huge dick part, is probably lucky genes, but the endurance part isn't.

SO..... onto the good news:

You can actually undo all of your hard work, that made you that "quickie guy".

You can either, stop watching porn, (tough luck)

or

stop masturbating to porn. This should be easier if you get a horny love interest. (this is actually very easy in my experience)

And while you are doing that, when you are having sex, try to think less about yourself.
Use your hands more, and you should be noticing a difference in matter of months.

[dap-addict]

And while you are doing that, when you are having sex, try to think less about yourself.
Use your hands more, and you should be noticing a difference in matter of months.

LOL. + 1

Btw, I bet there are also 100s of studies about guys having first RL sex experience without having seen porn before like before 1970ties or in other parts of World cumming within 2min!

[CanadianCouple]

Add pills and injections for porn studs.

Pills, injections, silicone injections or implants ,etc. Yeah the guys have to be special and different from most people, but the guys these days are so loaded up with gunk to keep massive erections for 3 hours and piss at the same time and etc etc...... i wouldnt want to do that to my body.

[dap-addict]

1 dick injection lasts only 3h?
So they actually need 1 injection for every scene they shoot that day?

[101mike101]

Btw, rather than blaming it on the ladies I'd take this from your posts.
But than again add that porn studs often dont withdraw on their own will, but on directors call. Than they sit and wank their best friends to stay hard and in the mood, while girls have two hands free to do whatever they want. Most of them sit on their smartphones, studs also, some re-lube at the same time. Than its 'Action!'-call again and they fuck another round of 2 to 5min. Studs usually dont come from sex at all, but hard mast work. Btw, watch the last Cindy Shine BTS!

I blame it on the relationship, rather than on the ladies. Because it's not the ladies who make guys feel insecure. It's the kind of relationship they have with each other.

In paid sex, such as in porn, the guy and the lady are totally secure with each other. Because the rules and the whole set up lets the guy take a break once in a while. And the lady doesn't think twice about it. That's why the guy can last for so long.

But in a personal relationship, people rely on their fickle feelings, rather than on some rules or agreement. That's why when you withdraw your dick from the chick, then you can't be sure that she will let you go back inside for another ride. Her feelings can change at a moment's notice. And she can say 'No' to you for any reason she wants.

Paid sex is more predictable and is more based on rules and agreement. That's why it makes people feel more secure and more sure.

Porn-studs wanking themselves to stay hard and in the mood is actually what many porn-fans do too, when they watch a porn scene. I don't see how you can say that porn-studs don't enjoy doing this, especially when they aren't just fantasizing but mentally hearsing their plan for how they are going to nail their hot lady's pussy and bum, once their break is finished.

If wanking during breaks is so bad, then why do porn-fans do it, when they watch porn films?

[101mike101]

Why do porn studs last longer? habituation mainly. When you fucked 1 thousand extremely hot girls in all way possible, your excitation level is not as high. Plus the pills, the injections, the constant stop and go due to camera work etc.
Sometimes their dicks are probably numb.

The hardest thing is maybe to be able to have an erection at all when you are surrounded with other studs and an entire filming crew with a director who asks you to do this and that and to get hard on demand. The level of self confidence involved is off limits.

Even with a hot girl in front of you, most of the guys myself included would probably shrink the first times

The problem with practice and habituation is that it works both ways.

If you practice bad sex-techniques, then you can actually become worse at it, rather than better. It's only when you practice good sex-techniques, then you become better at it.

Porn-studs get to practice the kind of sex techniques that work best for guys. Because they make porn for a male audience. Which means that they need to have the kind of sex that guys want to see. Porn ladies understand this too. So, both ladies and guys work together as a team to have the kind of sex that guys want to have and want to see.

And of course, porn-ladies aren't just doing this out of the goodness of their hearts. Their pay depends on how good they make it for guys. When a hot lady becomes popular among porn-fans, then her scenes make more money, and she makes more money too.

But between ordinary guys and ladies in everyday life, their relationship is often adversarial and competitive, rather than cooperative. When a cocky guy tries to get into the hot lady's pants and have sex with her the way he wants. Then the lady often sees this as the guy trying to take advantage of her. So, she doesn't let him do it this way. And even if the guy tries to please her too and do it the way she want, then the lady won't necessarily trust him. Because this just might be his way to get into her pants for his own advantage.

That's why such relationships are so often unsure and insecure. Which leads to bad sex. Because the guy basically ends up banging the hot lady as fast and as hard as he can, before she changes her mind.

You can try to please the lady too. But when the whole relationship is unsure and insecure, then the lady might see this as just another attempt to get into her pants. She won't necessarily trust you and see it in a good light, when you try to do something like this.

I think the only ladies, who can cooperate with guys like porn-stars do, are ladies who are willing to trade gifts and payments from guys in exchange for sexual favors for them. When both ladies and guys see this kind of trade and exchange fair and square, then they let go of their distrust and cooperate with each other, the way porn-guys and porn-ladies do. And once you are in a cooperative situation like this, then you can please the lady too some of the time. You can take turns at pleasing each other.

The thing about dating and marriage is that there is a lot of trade and exchange going on too. Because the lady usually wants a guy who makes more money than she does and will presumable share it with her. You don't often see ladies go for guys who are poorer than they are, unless the guy is really good-looking compared to the lady.

But in dating and marriage, the rules of trade and exchange are unclear. So, people often try to take advantage of the other, without giving back what the other wants.

Perhaps this kind of a relationship problem requires a change in culture to fix.

If guys and ladies in dating and marriage start looking at each other as studs and sluts, who are willing to trade and exchange with each other sexual favors and all the other things they want with each other. Then they both might start doing a lot more of what the other wants. Which would fix their relationship and make it good for both of them.

[dap-addict]

If wanking during breaks is so bad, then why do porn-fans do it, when they watch porn films?

You got me wrong here.
And I actually btw do agree with your OP about wanting as a way of training to last longer.

In that above post I only wanted to say that most porn studs shoot-off at the end not because they can't hold it back anymore or even feel some lust, but because director calls for it and than they usually stand there and have to wank for 5-10min until they can shoot. Its hard work rather than lust really. Exceptions are there of course, see Robin Reid @ Lana Bunny DAP.

[101mike101]

... most porn studs shoot-off at the end not because they can't hold it back anymore or even feel some lust, but because director calls for it and than they usually stand there and have to wank for 5-10min until they can shoot. Its hard work rather than lust really. Exceptions are there of course, see Robin Reid @ Lana Bunny DAP.

A hard guy banging a hot lady can be hard work too. But it's hard work that's enjoyable for the guy.

I once had an experience with a massage lady, who tried to make me cum with a hand-job on me, but she couldn't make me cum for a long time. She struggled with me for a good 30 minutes, before she finally made me cum. And I can say from my own experience that I didn't mind at all getting masturbated by this girl for such a long time. This was an enjoyable experience for me.

This massage lady took off her shirt, bared her tits for me, and grabbed my cock for a hand-job on me.

I liked her hands on my cock alright. But her technique wasn't good enough to make me cum. So, she started to vary her technique on my dick all over the place. She even tried firmly rolling my cock like a piece of dough or a sausage between her two hands. Perhaps this was her kitchen skills that she re-purposed for my cock. But even this didn't make me cum.

Partly it was my fault. Because once in a while she got her technique just right for my dick. But I didn't give her any clue that this was the way to do. So, she thought it didn't work for me and changed what she was doing with me.

I've never had a lady play around with my cock so much before. This lady grabbed and handled my cock all over the place, like she owned it. She did it with confidence and determination. But she still couldn't make me cum. And I felt as if I could last all day like this with her.

But this lady eventually started to get tired with me. This was hard work for her. I could see that she wanted to end it, but she didn't know how. So, I made it easy for her. I grabbed her tits and started groaning in response to her hands on my cock. I gave her good feedback, when she did it the right way. And she made me cum rather quickly in this situation.

And the moral of this story is that a hand-job on your cock can feel pretty good, even if it lasts for a long time, and you can't cum for some time.

[robin_reid]

If wanking during breaks is so bad, then why do porn-fans do it, when they watch porn films?

You got me wrong here.
And I actually btw do agree with your OP about wanting as a way of training to last longer.

In that above post I only wanted to say that most porn studs shoot-off at the end not because they can't hold it back anymore or even feel some lust, but because director calls for it and than they usually stand there and have to wank for 5-10min until they can shoot. Its hard work rather than lust really. Exceptions are there of course, see Robin Reid @ Lana Bunny DAP.

Yes I was first to cum in this scene and normally when I’m there I’m always the first but take in mind this point; most of those gio studs are working more than me, every day, sometimes twice per day in difficult groupal scenes, inyections to get hard also cause some lose of sensibility in their dicks. When I arrive to Prague I’m with the libido “in the clouds” wishing to fuck a donkey and with my dick very sensitive wishing to cum everytime. That’s just because I’m in a different situation

[CanadianCouple]

1 dick injection lasts only 3h?
So they actually need 1 injection for every scene they shoot that day?

The guys that inject carry kits around and yes, they shoot multiple times day. Its horrifying and they will be in serious trouble when they are much older.

A lot of the Euro guys get silicone injected in their penis. That is why you see dicks that are always hard, after ejaculation, never change. And have a "spongy" look to them.

Most guys just take viagra, but again, they may take multiple pills a day.

Its not easy to stay turned on in porn, and lasting that long is not natural and not possible without assistance.

Just part of the job!

[101mike101]

I agree that porn-studs might be overdoing it and doing it much more than they naturally might want to do.

But my point in this discussion is that porn-studs also use some natural means to last longer with their ladies. And taking frequent breaks during their filming is one such means.

So, if you want to last as long as you want with ladies in your personal life, then you can learn from this and do it like this too.

You don't need the injections and other extreme things porn-studs do in your personal sex-life. Because this isn't work for you. You are doing it for fun.

It's like in sports, Olympic champions train extremely hard for their achievements. But this doesn't mean that amateurs, who do it for enjoyment, can't learn anything from Olympic champions. They can borrow some of their training and exercising methods too, but not go to the same extreme lengths that actual champions do.

Porn-studs do it much more than is necessary for a guy to enjoy it and be satisfied completely. That's why you can stay away from their extreme stuff and limit yourself only what works naturally, which is taking breaks, when you come close to orgasm.

[analbrutalny]

Thanks to LegalPorno for amazing job.

For someone who is crazy about anal, they are definitely the best.

I also think watching porn improves sex life. Women like what I do.

I wonder how the actors take care of their penises. What they do is that they are so huge. I understand that they are naturally above average.
What do you think have the best ways to care for penises?

I naturally have 18 cm / 7 inch. I noticed that when I train, eat well, I'm in shape and eat protein and nitrogen nutrient, the penis gains. The penis pump also works for a period of time and after exercise makes it bigger. 20 cm almost 8 inch.

However, Legal Porno actors have really impressive equipment. Anyone have information on what they specifically do?
Maybe the actors themselves will speak out?

[vampsinthe78]

I've been in "training" for a few months. I attended two gangbangs this year. The first was a private party and quite relaxed. The second was this last Thursday and was a full size gangbang at a swingers club. There were 5 girls (4 were pretty young and the 5th was a more dominant MILF) each with a room they could entertain the guys in. You asked a simple "Yes, no or later" question and had fun. They all moved to a larger central room later in the night.

If I learned anything from porn, it is that editing hides a LOT. There is quite a lot of standing around sensing the energy in the room which, for me is a great way to stay hard. It's a big turn on to see a girl who looked like Mai Thai getting railed by two massive cocks knowing you were next up to take over.
However, in the course of the 4 hour the event took place, I came only twice and got extremely numb during my last fuck. I went back to my hotel and finished up.