fredflehoux wrote:Well at this point it's like saying, most prostitute are slut who really enjoy servicing their clients. There is no way for me to share that opinion and i'm not anti-porn as much as i<m not anti-sugar. However we all know what too much sugar is. I have pros and cons about anything, even stuff i really like. So imo yeah, most girl do it for the money and they don't hate it, it pay so well. gotta fit the bill, be tpretty confident in yourself to sustain the social pressure, be open to sex, etc.
It's like so many other jib, that pay well and for some it suck, for some it's a great opportunity, for some it's the best job ever.
I agree. Getting paid for your work doesn't mean that you can't enjoy it.
Or else you would need to say that Nurses hate their jobs, because they get paid for it. Teachers hate their jobs for the same reason. And everybody who gets paid must hate their jobs.
This payment argument makes no sense at all. Because everybody needs to get paid for their work, regardless of whether they enjoy their work or not. Everybody has bills to pay, and working for free isn't an option, no matter how much you enjoy doing your work.
I think porn-stars and other sex-workers often enjoy their work in two different ways.
Physical enjoyment of sex is hardwired into the human body, and it happens automatically, when sexual organs are stimulated in the right way. That's why masturbation is physically pleasant every time. You know how to stimulate yourself the right way, and that's why it works every time. But with a partner, it depends on how good your partner is in bed with you. Some partners do it in the right way, and some don't.
I've read some porn-star interviews, where the ladies have said that Manuel Ferrara is pretty good at making it pleasant for women during their porn-shoots. Here is an example of what they are talking about:
And another way sex-workers can enjoy their work is through empathy with the other person's feelings.
It happens when you can see that you've made the other person feel good. This kind of thing is a reward for workers in many occupations, where they work with other people. So, nurses, hospitality workers, and other types of workers often say that this is what makes their work pleasant and good for them. And it probably works this way even more for sex-workers. Because sex-workers please their clients directly by going straight to their pleasure centers. It's not just psychological enjoyment. It's physical enjoyment.
Perhaps not everybody is good at feeling this kind of pleasure. Because some people are naturally empathetic, while others are not. I think that porn-stars who like and enjoy their work are probably more empathetic than those who don't. Because this is a big source of enjoyment for all kinds of workers, including sex-workers.