dap-addict wrote:....
Second girls can rub themselves much better than guys usually, even than Ferrara using lots of oil.
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This is like saying that a woman can please herself with a dildo much better, than a guy can please her with his cock. Because she can read her own mind and do it just the right way with her dildo. While the guy can only imagine and guess what she needs and wants. There is no way he can do it just the right way every time.
I think you are missing the point of why people want to have sex with others, rather than just stay at home and masturbate alone.
When a woman takes your cock with her hand and masturbates you, then this is an entirely different feeling from when you masturbate yourself. Because she expresses her thinking, her feeling, and her personality in the way she masturbates you.
It's like you find out what kind of a woman she is from the way she handles your cock. And no two women will do it exactly the same way. One woman might bare her tits and masturbate you so hard and fast, that there is no way you can last. While another chick might grab your dick, without taking off her shirt. So, it will be up to you to discover and reveal her tits, while she fumbles and fools around with your cock. She makes it last and doesn't do you hard and fast. And a third woman, who has some experience in the kitchen, might put your cock between the palms of her hands and roll it back and forth like a sausage.
In each case, it's interesting and exciting for you to see and to feel how the woman handles your cock and tries to please you. But there is nothing interesting or exciting like this, when you masturbate yourself. Because you already know yourself, and everything you do with yourself is entirely predictable. Masturbating yourself is like talking to yourself. It's a lot less interesting and less exciting than talking with another person, whom you are getting to know.
Comparing self-masturbation with getting masturbated by another person is like comparing apples and oranges. Because they don't even belong to the same category. The first is a solitary activity. While the second is having sex with another person.
And I think a woman masturbating herself, while looking at the floor or at the wall, can appear as if she is ignoring the guy and isn't paying much attention to him. Which is like being in company of someone, who picks her phone and starts looking through her text-messages, while you are talking to her. It shows indifference and even a kind of rejection. A woman might do this kind of thing, when she wants to get rid of you.
I suppose, it's possible to make the woman's masturbation look good, even when she is with a guy. This when she focuses her attention on the guy and masturbates herself to get her lust going for him.
It's like a peeping step-mom comes at the masturbating young man, while masturbating her own pussy, so that she can mount his big cock right away, without any delay. She gets her lust going for him and prepares herself for him, rather than just enjoying herself in her own solitary activity. So, masturbation can be a part of interaction with another person. Which gives it an entirely different meaning from that of shifting your attention from the other person to yourself. The first helps the interaction and is a part of it. While the second is a kind of indifference and even rejection of the other person. Which is a turn-off in porn.