by van.herblay » Wed Dec 14, 2022 2:50 pm
Same experience here. I like to watch it, but not particularly to practice in my personal life. I've done it a few times with different girls, and each time it reminded me how much "the other way" is better.
I'd wage it's the perceived "degrading aspect" of it, and the fact (most often true than not) that girls do not particularly enjoy it that arouses us when we watch it instead of doing it with a girl we like. Call it sadistic or perverse if you want, but at least let's be honest about it.
Most of the time when I did it, it was to "push" the girl I was with a little further. It's always a good thing in a relationship to help the girl push some boundaries with you. Because it deepens the bond you have (she never did it before, or only with one or two exes that mattered) and because I'm convinced every girl (even the "good girls") wishes to find a man more experienced willing to help them safely discover some "darker" aspects of their sexuality.